1. Tell each other you love each other.
  2. Never both be angry at the same time.
  3. If you have to criticise, do it lovingly.
  4. Never bring up old mistakes.
  5. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
  6. Neglect the whole dunya rather than each other.
  7. Pray together at least once a day.
  8. Remember that behind every successful spouse is an exhausted partner.
  9. Remember it takes two to quarrel.
  10. When you have done something wrong, admit it.
  11. At least once a day, say something kind or complimentary to your partner.
  12. Do not go to bed more than ten minutes after your partner.
  13. Listen when your partner is speaking.
  14. Remember that your spouse is more important than the television/match/video etc.
  15. Notice when your partner is wearing something new, or has a new hairdo.
  16. Remember anniversaries.
  17. Thank your partner for their gift, or effort on your behalf.
  18. Last one up, make the bed.
  19. Notice when your spouse looks tired, and do something about it.
  20. Never run your partner down, or criticise them in public.

Written by: Ruqayyah Waris Maqsood